There is something powerfully reflective about the start of the new year and wondering "Is this as good as it gets?"
Am I really living the life I want from a career and family perspective?” A remarkably high number of people have these thoughts – you’ve probably had them yourself. Then life gets busy again, and we park the questions. But the thoughts don’t leave us and we find ourselves returning to the questions again and again.
So, as you move into 2018, pause for a moment and convert that questioning into a deeper review of what is the best life you can live? How will you attain it?
'What surprises me most is “Man”, because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he doesn’t enjoy the present; The result being he doesn’t live in the present or the future; He lives as if he’s never going to die, and then he dies having never really lived.'
Living your best life is really working out what you want out of life: not what you think you should want or others say you should do, but what you really want. The only arbiter of whether it is your best life is you … it is as unique to you as your fingerprint.
I believe we all have a Unique Life Fingerprint. It is at the core of our being and is based on everything that makes us uniquely who we are. It this Unique Life Fingerprint that contains our gifts, or what we bring to the world, and it is this Unique Life Fingerprint that contains our values, strengths, the things that give us energy, our preferences for who we spend our time with and where we want to be that helps to make decisions about how we turn up in the world.
Life Design defines your Unique Life Fingerprint™
If you are living with stress and tension, it is possible that you are living far from your Unique Life Fingerprint. The further away we are from our Unique Life Fingerprint and from what should be our Best Life Design, the more stress we live with. You may have tried to start a new career. Or you may have tried to set some new year’s resolutions. But it is important bring together your strengths, your values, your dreams and your life experience before you set a path for yourself.
So what shifts does designing a best life create? It moves you from a compartmentalized life – separating work and life – to an integrated life. It moves you from constant tension when making decisions to having a compass that makes decisions easier.
I don’t know if there is such a thing as ‘work-life balance’ – I like to think of it as work-life integration, or even better, Life Design. You might be asking yourself ‘Where do I start? How do I really live the life I want to live from a career and family perspective, at the peak of health, and doing what I do best?” Well, you start with creating your Best Life Design.
The goal is to move from stress and tension to a place of solution.
You will no longer feel you are compartmentalizing or juggling, but that your integrated Life Design serves as your compass to navigate life and career choices to live a life that is true to who you really are and in tune with your values and strengths.
I wrote THINK.PLAN.LIVE
. because I truly believe that if we each design our best lives, we can make a unique contribution. I wrote THINK.PLAN.LIVE
. so that each of us has a practical guide with six steps, asking ourselves about our Who, What, With, Why, Where and When of the life we design. By working through the practical tools in the book, or through the online portal, and integrating them through three powerful processes which I call the Syntegrate
Method – Synthesis, Synergy and Integration – we emerge with a Life Design. I like to think of it as ‘Life Design Your Way’
. Whether you work through the book, use the online Portal, engage in Executive Coaching or workshops, or a combination, there is a way of designing your life that suits you.
As you plan the year you will be writing objectives for your job, thinking about what success looks like, and working out your KBIs. It is time to apply the same rigor to your life.
With an integrated Life Design, your decisions become easier, goals are attainable, and stress is reduced.
Is it for everyone? I believe so. Can you start now? Of course you can. You can make 2018 your best year yet.
CEO and Founder of Syntegrate
Author of Think.Plan.Live.